How To Connect Deeper With Your Child

If your child is thriving at a traditional school and you know they’re on the path to realizing their dreams, this message is not for you. On the other hand, if you feel like something is missing and you are searching for something better out there, then please read on or watch the video recap!

It might be that your child is advanced in some subjects, but he is not able to move at his own pace because he has to wait for the rest of the class to catch up. Perhaps, your child has a ton of energy and he kept on being sent to the principal’s office. He may start feeling like he is a bad child, but he is not. He just has a lot of energy and can’t sit still at a desk for 8 hours a day. After all, sitting on a desk for a long time isn’t something normal for any child to be doing. Maybe your child used to be so excited about school but the sparkle left their eyes and the motivation is gone. No matter what you say, you can’t get them to push themselves. Whatever the reason is for you and your child, there is something you can do.

Of course, there are some parents who are fine with the way things are. They may even think or feel like there is nothing they can do about changing their child’s experience in school. After all, that’s the way school is and that’s the way it’s always been done! I call these parents the Status Quo Parent. “Good” is good enough for them.

On the other hand, there are others like us who look at the status quo and think, “Can this be better? Is there something more I can do?” I call them the Inspired Parent. These are parents who are curious and always searching for answers. They know there must be a better way.

Let me teach you one powerful character-building system we use every day at Acton Academy. We have what we call “Socratic Discussions.” We have circle time in the morning where we present real-world dilemmas. The learners talk about various topics and they are called to make a stance, stick to it, and defend it. There is no right or answer. It’s all about opinions. We have amazing conversations with children ages 5-10. It’s amazing what children can come up with when you let them talk and have ideas of their own.

Today, so much of traditional schools memorize facts that have a right or wrong answer. They practice passively with their opinions and aren’t usually asked to think on their own. Imagine if you implemented a Socratic discussion every day with your children? I think a good time for this is at dinner. Do you think your family would get closer? Do you think it might spark curiosity on certain subjects? Do you think it would give your child a chance to practice taking a stance on something and defending their opinion?

My husband, my son and I have evening circles where we go over what we were most grateful for in the day and what we’re looking forward to the next day. If you’re wondering how to come up with topics or find a question, you can talk about a topic that is currently on the news (“Will there ever be peace on earth?”) or grab a coffee table conversations deck, or even use a behavior you want to see changed in your child (that one is a favorite at Acton – we just had a discussion on “It is ok to lie? why/why not?”). In case you get stuck, I am more than happy to send you a page of questions or topics to get you started.

I know that you want to see the best in your child. At Acton Academy, we believe that every person who enters our doors is a genius and they will use their passions to change the world. Our Eagles engage in their education as heroes on a journey and they are looking for the treasure within themselves. 

I wish you success and a deeper connection with your own little heroes.


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