As adults, navigating uncertainty is so challenging. It’s even more confusing for young people who are just learning what their role in the world is. As parents, letting our children know it is not their job to worry or make the world a safe place is a must. They can find ways to help, but it isn’t their job to be anxious about what’s going to happen.
If your child is watching the news with you, seek out new stories that highlight the heroes who are trained to be helpers or are being helpers just out of the goodness of their hearts. Doing so gives them security and inspiration seeing adults working to keep the world a safe place.
Allow your children to express their fears. Let them tell you what they are thinking and how they are feeling. Find out if they want more information or less information. Ask questions. It’s so easy to say “you shouldn’t be afraid” and reassure them that everything will be okay. But doing so won’t help their inner growth. Try not to tell them how to think and process. Although it can be hard, try not to project your own feelings on them. You can tell them about your thoughts and feelings, but let them have their own, and validate them even if they are different from yours.
At Acton Academy, our Eagles know what it is like to be a helper in the community and the studio. At a very young age, they know how to fill up each other’s buckets and think of ways to help others through challenging times.
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”Fred Rogers